We can learn a lot from tales of deathbed regrets. Taken from the lessons learned in the book “Top Five Regrets of the Dying” by Bronnie Ware, you are about to be enlightened.
1 I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, and not the life others expected of me.
“Most common regret of all. Most people had not honoured even half of their dreams and had to die knowing it was due to choices they had made, or not made.”
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
“This came from every patient I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. All the people I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.”
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming.”
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
“They became so caught up in their own lives that they had let friendships slip by over the years. There were many regrets about not giving friends the time that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
“Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives.
Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to themselves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”
As a career and life coach, I often hear people who express similar regrets. People who wish they had the courage to be happier, to take the leap and make a change – a change in their careers, a change in their life – something to align with who they are.
The #1 regret – and that realisation that dreams were not achieved because of the choices made or not made in life.
The choice is up to you.
Are you ready to make a change?