It was parent consultation evening at my secondary school.
“You could have warmed me!” my mother uttered as she burst back through the front door.
No teenager is fond of sitting at home knowing their mother is at their school talking to teachers. As a teenager, it (along with every else in life) is embarrassing.
‘Ewwwww… my teachers are going to see my mom! They are going to, know you, talk and stuff – about ME – behind my back! Ugggh.’
My form tutor had asked my mother about how the new foal was doing. My mother stared blankly. My form tutor prompted a little – the horses, one has just had a foal?
I was caught red-handed. For months, I had been writing in my form diary about our home next to the farm and the horses we kept there. Each entry, I had delved deeper into the feeding routines, stable care, grooming, and how we were excitedly awaiting the arrival of our new foal.
I lived on a housing estate.
We had a dog.
“You could have warmed me!”
“Uh, about what?”
“The fake horses we are supposed to own. The fantasy foal that has stumbled blindly into this world. I don’t care what you write about. Just a little forewarning would be nice!”
“The tutor wanted to know what we do at home. It’s like, private. It has nothing to do with school. So, I made it up.”
“Clearly. You’re a tit!”
We all have boundaries and internal systems in our life. It is a way we make sense of things around us. When others invade those boundaries, we take action to protect our borders.
But what if it is our own systems and boundaries that are causing an inner invasion?
The conflict in our own head. The stress. The uncertainty.
This is what coaching helps you understand. We explore the internal systems you use to make sense of your life. We work on mindset to make well-considered adjustments that work for your life. And you walk away with a set of boundaries and internal systems that make sense. Not only that, you’ll ditch the conflict and have the tools in place to live a life you love.
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